The Addictions Coach: Stop Chasing What You DON’T Have, 16 Goals to Help You Enjoy What You DO
The time for new year resolutions is here, and over the next few months many people will already count themselves out, finding the stress is too much to keep up with their unrealistic ideas. What if this year, you take the time to create goals to work on yourself and your emotional needs, cherishing the things in your life you already have, instead of pursuing all the things you don’t. Instead of becoming stressed about what resolutions you FAILED at this year, be at peace knowing all the blessings you have surrounding you. Let’s start off with an excerpt from this great article by Brianna West, on Thought Catalog.
16 Goals To Set For Next Year That Are More About Enjoying What You Have Than Chasing What You Don’t
Brianna Wiest Thought Catalog
Milestones are markers that you’re evolving – they do not create emotional fulfillment in the way we think they will. This confusion is why with the dawn of each new year, our resolutions are to change our lives, rather than to change ourselves. But what if we made goals that were more about loving what we have rather than chasing what we don’t? What if we realized that it’s what we were seeking in the first place? It’s something to consider – if not even try just a little. Here, a few ideas to get you started:
1. Pick up where you left off. Finish the half-read books on your shelf. Eat what’s in the cupboard. Wear what you own in ways you never thought of before. Apologize and mean it. Call old friends. Revisit old projects. Try other routes.
2. Seek out ways to appreciate the way people are, not the way you want them to be. It is not your job to judge who is deserving of your love and kindness. It is not your job to fix anybody. It is only your job to love them, in whatever way is appropriate. You are not anybody else’s god.
3. Make time for the friends you have more than you seek out the ones you don’t. Stop counting how many people are in your life as though to hitting a certain tally will make you feel loved. Start appreciating how rare and beautiful it is to even just have one close friend in a life. Not everybody is so lucky.
4. Each day, write down one thing your body allowed you to do. Whether it was watching your favorite show or listening to the sounds on the street on the way to work or being able to see a computer screen or hug someone you love, focus on what your body does more than what it looks like doing it.
5. Learn to love things that don’t cost much. Learn to love simple food and cooking it, being outside, the company of a friend, going for walks, watching the sunrise, a full night’s sleep, a good day’s work.
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